Brewing Short-lived Relationships

Since January of this year, the word "short-lived" was very eminent and present. I lost a few from a few true friends I have in a very dramatic yet simple fashion. No wonder misunderstandings are one of the few ingredients for having "short-lived" relationships. You could almost taste the impending drop of every human word that would utter in a split second. Chances and forgiveness are considered rare herbs that you could add up in order for a relationship to simmer and smell that unique blend. It was never a pretty sight when you're into these short-lived ties. Like here you are investing your time, and hoping against hope that every slightest thing you've done was for the better good. Pledging to never sought the downside for them. To sought the worth keeping things that you want them to remember. And sadly, the next thing you know, you're goner and considered a beautiful let down.

I kid myself one time and thinking what if I come up with "warning label" of I in a bullet form in order for each person to accept the future or at least, expects these things from me:

* To the opposite sex: I will not held responsible to my heart. If in the process of friendship I fell in love with you. Don't panic. Don't run. Better yet, don't hide and ignore me. Let's talk.

* I am not a perfect friend. I could be an asshole in one way or another, rest assured I have valid reasons for being one but nevertheless, I will be modest to accept my or your mistakes. Be assured I won't put you into a situation that would make you less of a person. We're humans.

*There would be arguments, misunderstandings, tears, steers and ugly smirks. But that doesn't mean we can't talk about it in a more matured way.

*Let's expect to respect each other from head to toe, shitty times to not-so-happy times, from pondering to just wanting to be alone. This will not make us hurt each other more even if keeping in touch would become a thing of the past.

* I will speak your name in awe and next to cool adjectives and figure of speeches like.. "she's one of the finest!" or "Gago yun pero elibs pa rin ako kasi mahal niya pamilya niya." I will speak highly of you to the closest people that you don't and do know.

*Yes I said, and mean it so much that "I'm here for you." But without the word "every time" on it.

*Let's step back temporarily if we hurt each other one day.

*Forgive. No matter how hard, we'll learn to forgive.

But alas, having these kind of warnings or cautionary measures would might end up being a "survival" guide which I'd rather for them to be lost and know each other as time passes.

Short-lived friendships tastes bad. Kaya kung sino ang mga taong nasa paligid mo na binibigyan ka ng importansiya ngayon, sila ang dapat mong itago ng mahabang panahon. These kind of friends of yours will be so fermented and aged in oak barrels you could almost smell the aromas of the likes from APO Hiking Society or VST & Co. Through think and thin, they were there with each other.

And from this alone, you won't need the extra "F" in BF.


Interlude:

To all the short-lived relationships that I met in the past few months, I'll raise my glass of milk to you all! At least we didn't end up foes. The Earth is already too crowded to keep one.