I'd like you to meet... Ms. Understood & Ms. Interpreted!

Situation 1:
Jonas & Martha have been friends/classmates for almost a year now in a medical school in Manila. One rainy afternoon, Martha saw Jonas with a girl and holding an umbrella. Later at night, curious Martha called Jonas through the phone and asked him about the girl she saw earlier. Martha said "Uuuuyyy.. dumidiskarte na si bestfriend ah! share naman ng love life mo jan!". Jonas replied "What?! I was just being a gentleman to a lady. Pinayungan ko lang, diskarte na agad yun?!" "kayo talagang mga lalake palusot pa kayo!" An ending reply by Martha and hanged-up the phone after.
Moral Lesson: Don't be a stereo type. Not all we see are interpreted as it is.

Situation 2:
Pepito had a girlfriend named Luwalhati. They' ve been together for almost seven months. Pepito knows Luwalhati as super friendly to everyone. While Luwalhati knew Pepito as over protective and easily hunted by jelousy. One gimik night, Luwalhati told to her beaux that she'll be joining her "gal friends" at a bar later after their dinner. Pepito agreed however with a condition that he'll take her at the place. The two agreed and headed to the place were Luwalhati's girl friends are waiting. When they arrived their, Pepito saw Luwalhati's gal friends waiting outside. As soon as the couple parted their ways, Pepito drive back after a few minutes and saw his girl talking and hugged a guy he did'nt even knew before. Madness fell over to Pepito's heart and got out of the car running to Luwalhati and the guy. Pepito shouted at Luwalhati and said in a fast-paced way "kala ko ba puro babae kasama mo?!bakit may lalake dito?! Before Luwalhati could explain everything to him, Pepito smacked down the guy untill the guy's nose bled. Not knowing that the guy he punched was Luwalhati's cousin from United States having a time out and surprisingly met Luwalhati in the place.
Moral Lesson: Marami ang napapahamak sa maling akala.

Situation 3:
Good buddies for 10 years Tito and Samson having a cup of coffee in a nearby cafe. They conversed on subjects from politics to sports and lastly their love lives! Tito said "Pare, what if... what if lang ha! nakita mong may kasama girlfriend mo? at nakita mong ako ang kasama niya.. let say... sa sinehan. anong mararamdaman mo?!" Samson said "uhmm.. okay lang! Just as long wala naman kayong ginagawang mali diba?!" After the talks they separate ways. Samson called to her girlfriend and said "honey, wag na wag mo ng pakikisamahan si Tito ha!" After that coffee talks with the two guys, they never seen each other ever again.
Moral Lesson: What if's may result to devastation of friendships. Dont Ask "what if's" IF you're talking to a person who haven't had an open mind and trust.

Situation 4:
Pia, Leila and Kurt were classmates in college and at the same time childhood buddies. Pia was born in Dallas, Texas and decides to go to one of the colleges here in the country. Leila was raised by her conservative lolo and lola while Kurt was their long time neighbour. One time, Pia went to Kurt's place and asked something to him.

Pia:"Hey, uhmm.. I want to talk to you about Leila.
"Kurt:"so, what about her?"
Pia:"do you like her?"
Kurt:"if your definition of "like" is love then, I don't. For me they're two different words."
Pia:"okay, do you love her?"
Kurt:"certainly, as a sister & as a friend.
"Pia:"okay. that's all! good night!"
Kurt:"i'm not stupid, Pia.you came here just for that?! c'mon, you're up to something..??"
Pia smiled back and left.

The next day at class, Kurt approached Leila and asked her

Kurt:"Leila, tanong ko lang kung nagkausap ba kayo ni Pia kanina?"
Leila:"Oo. may sinabi lang siya sakin tungkol sayo."
Kurt:"Oi ah! wag kang maniniwala dun! di totoo yun!"
Leila:"Ha?! ang alin ang hindi totoo?! meron ka bang tinatago sakin?"
Kurt:"wala."
Leila:"e bakit ganyan ka mag react?!"
Kurt:"e wala lang baka naman na misunderstood mo yung sinabi ni Pia sayo tungkol sakin."
Leila:"ahh.. so ganun na lang kababa ang pag tingin mo sa pagkakaibigan natin?!"
Kurt:"hindi naman ganun. gusto ko lang maging sensitive towards your feelings. ayaw kong mag isip ka ng kung ano-ano at masaktan."
Leila:"Kurt, for your information, she just told me about your feelings towards me. para sakin ok lang yun. basta ba hindi magbabago yung friendship natin e.. ok na yun! ang hindi lang okay sakin ay nalaman ko pa sa iba. wala ka bang lakas ng loob para sabihin sakin yun?!"
Kurt:"Ha?! teka lang... wala akong sinasabi na gusto kita. ang sabi ko..."
Leila:"So lumalabas na sinungaling si Pia?! y'know what? just forget it! ayoko ng pag usapan 'to!"

two hours earlier...

Pia:"Leila! can we talk for awhile?!"
Leila:"Sure sis! what's up!?"
Pia:"I talked to Kurt last night and i found something about her towards you."
Leila:"So.. what's up with Kurt?!"
Pia:"I think he likes you. He didn't told me straight but I can assure you He does!"
Moral Lesson: Be very careful on what you say or do. It might use it against you.

Indeed, even the most greatest men & women in the past have been misunderstood & misinterpreted by many. I can consider it as inevitable. I myself have been misundertsood so many times in so many different ways. A causetive factor might be lack of two-way communication & time. The goodness of speaking and listening to each other have been compromised and when these two are compromised and substitutes it to "Paramdam" instead of conversation then we have a problem. Perhaps another cause might be the abilty of a person to misjudge a person's action/s. Sometimes we misunderstood or misinterpret things because we have our OWN definition of words. We often depend on "mga paramdam". But we can't depend on it always because instincts may be wrong in some situations. It is certain that we see things differently, but there's a process-- communication. Use this tool for this is a key to lessen our two Misses to come by and wreck havoc.

Those examples above are one of the usual ones that Miss Understood and Miss Interpret came by to visit and make things complicated. and so..

The random Question For The week:
"What are the things/situations oftenly misunderstands from you by others and ends for you to be misinterpreted as well?

Last Song Syndrome: "Akap" by Imago